What a woman looks for in an erotic massage

9 October 2026

Women love massages, there is no doubt about that: whether at a spa, when they get their nails done or even at the hairdresser's, almost all beauty treatments for women include a massage.

Contact with a person of the opposite sex is usually much more invasive for them, unlike for men. Women usually prefer a massage from another woman: for them it is not taboo for another woman to see them, touch them or caress them.

In the day-to-day life of an adult Western woman, most contacts are conditioned. Her greeting includes two kisses, even if she does not want that contact with another person: it is something imposed by our society. With family, contact is usually for caring and comforting. Medically, women have continuous examinations of their anatomy. Most of the physical contacts that an average Western woman has are for a therapeutic purpose or for giving.

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When a woman arrives at a erotic massage, what she is looking for is to receive. Although it is very common for her to also end up caressing the masseuse, because touch is something they have very integrated, what a woman seeks when she gets to the tatami or the massage table is to receive without anything in return.

We can call it contact without a toll: it is not about a partner whom she will later have to please, it does not have to end in sex; it is simply about relaxing and enjoying.

The masseuses who feel comfortable with women enjoy these massages a lot. Women are exceptional clients because they do not get nervous, they do not seek sex, they just relax and let themselves go.

There are also cases of homosexual women or women with a lot of masculine energy who do have behaviours more typical of men, but it is not the norm.

Women seek to have their whole body caressed slowly: back, legs, buttocks, arms, breasts, their entire body. They like caresses around the groin much more than on their intimate parts: they enjoy the subtlety and softness of the proximity much more than massage on the genitals.

Women do not have their preferred areas as marked as men: it is the masseuse's job to be attentive to their reactions. They do not usually look, they do not care so much about the masseuse's beauty or the posture; women love to feel the caresses, to smell, to listen. The sense of sight usually has less importance in arousal.

There are erotic websites that claim that women consume many adult videos involving massages between women, and that for them it is much more exciting than even heterosexual videos.

Masseuses experienced with women know that whispers in the ear, caresses in the hair, a good perfume and a lot of subtlety are what they seek most.

There are clients who do not even need orgasm, for whom that feeling of authority over their body, the feeling that they want to give them pleasure, is enough for the session.

Other clients seek an unconditional touch, for their full enjoyment, and end up having several consecutive orgasms. For a woman who likes to enjoy sex, erotic massage is a huge liberation: feeling that she does not have to please anyone and that she only has to worry about feeling and enjoying is wonderful for them.

It is highly recommended to include these techniques in couple practices; in some centres couples are taught to give each other massages. In the case of women, it is recurrent that their main request is to receive without giving anything in return. It is something that can be frustrating for the man if he does not understand it, which is why communication is so important, and much benefit can be gained from four-hand sessions.

There the woman can forget about her partner and focus only on enjoying herself. Many four-hand sessions include the couple touching and massaging each other while they receive their massage.